Melanie Tan (she/her)
Languages: English
Melanie is currently holding a waitlist for new clients.
If you would like to be added to her waitlist, please email [email protected]
Languages: English
Melanie is currently holding a waitlist for new clients.
If you would like to be added to her waitlist, please email [email protected]
Availability
Fridays 7:00 am - 5:00 pm (Virtual)
Saturdays 9:00am - 5:00pm (In-person at Chinatown & Virtual)
Melanie's practicum runs from September 2025 - May 2026
Melanie is available for lower cost EMDR
About
Hey, I’m Melanie! I’m a sex therapist, former graphic designer, and storytelling enthusiast. As a bicultural (Singaporean/Canadian), demisexual woman who is personally familiar with polyamory, I bring my whole self to this work so you can feel safe bringing yours.
My ‘way of therapy’ is anchored in the core human experience. I view therapy through an existential lens (often using parts work and narrative therapy)—so basically, I like to look at the "big questions" in addition to your immediate needs.
I work with all types of folks, but I am most effective when we are navigating:
Because I am trained in EMDR, we can process trauma at a nervous-system level, not just talk around it. If you’ve ever thought, “I’ve talked in circles about this thing and it just won’t go away,” this might be a way to help clean out the issues that just unlatch it’s claws from you.
Finally, a note on safety: As a survivor of sexual trauma, I’ve done my own healing work to be here. I share this not to center my story, but so you know that I can hold space for yours without flinching. You don't need to protect me from your reality.
Outside of counselling, I can be found playing Dungeons & Dragons or video games (I’m big on RPGs and deck-builders). Otherwise, I’m likely at my stationery desk playing with fountain pens, cross-stitching, or curled up with my kindle!
Approaches
Selected Trainings
Fridays 7:00 am - 5:00 pm (Virtual)
Saturdays 9:00am - 5:00pm (In-person at Chinatown & Virtual)
Melanie's practicum runs from September 2025 - May 2026
Melanie is available for lower cost EMDR
About
Hey, I’m Melanie! I’m a sex therapist, former graphic designer, and storytelling enthusiast. As a bicultural (Singaporean/Canadian), demisexual woman who is personally familiar with polyamory, I bring my whole self to this work so you can feel safe bringing yours.
My ‘way of therapy’ is anchored in the core human experience. I view therapy through an existential lens (often using parts work and narrative therapy)—so basically, I like to look at the "big questions" in addition to your immediate needs.
I work with all types of folks, but I am most effective when we are navigating:
- Sexual Wellness & Identity: Desire, libido, kinks, painful sex, and exploring gender/sexuality.
- Shame, Trauma & Compulsion: Healing from assault, religious trauma/purity culture, and compulsive sexual behaviors.
- Relationship Dynamics: Navigating polyamory, ethical non-monogamy (ENM), and kink dynamics.
- The Big Stuff: Life’s direction, meaning, and who you are at your core.
Because I am trained in EMDR, we can process trauma at a nervous-system level, not just talk around it. If you’ve ever thought, “I’ve talked in circles about this thing and it just won’t go away,” this might be a way to help clean out the issues that just unlatch it’s claws from you.
Finally, a note on safety: As a survivor of sexual trauma, I’ve done my own healing work to be here. I share this not to center my story, but so you know that I can hold space for yours without flinching. You don't need to protect me from your reality.
Outside of counselling, I can be found playing Dungeons & Dragons or video games (I’m big on RPGs and deck-builders). Otherwise, I’m likely at my stationery desk playing with fountain pens, cross-stitching, or curled up with my kindle!
Approaches
- Existential
- EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing)
- Person-Centred
- Narrative
- Trauma Focused
- Feminist
- Internal Family Systems (Parts Work)
Selected Trainings
- BDSM: Working with Kinky Clients—The Westland Academy of Clinical Sex Therapy
- Canadian Certified Sex Addiction Specialist—Canadian Addiction Counsellors Certification Federation
- EMDR Therapy — Alivia Maric, PhD, RPsych and Eve Wilensky, MA, RCC EMDR Training
- Painful Sex: Working with Genito-Pelvic Pain/Penetration Disorders (GPPD)—Allura Sex Therapy Centre & Provider
- Sex & Gender 101: The Basics (Mini Course)—The Westland Academy of Clinical Sex Therapy
- Sex & Trauma: Helping Clients Move Beyond Trauma & Reclaim Their Sexuality—Allura Sex Therapy Centre & Provider