Melanie Tan (she/her) - Pre-licensed Counsellor
Languages: English
If you would like to be connected with Melanie, please email her at [email protected]
or
Languages: English
If you would like to be connected with Melanie, please email her at [email protected]
or
Availability
Tuesdays 8:00 am - 5:00 pm (Virtual)
Wednesdays 3:00 pm - 7:00 pm (Virtual)
Thursdays 1:30 pm - 7:00 pm (Virtual)
Fridays 8:00 am - 5:00 pm (Virtual)
Saturdays 9:00 am - 2:00 pm (In-Person at Ontario and Broadway)
About
Hey, I’m Melanie! I’m a sex therapist, former graphic designer, and storytelling enthusiast. As a bicultural (Singaporean/Canadian), demisexual woman who is personally familiar with polyamory, I bring my whole self to this work so you can feel safe bringing yours.
My ‘way of therapy’ is anchored in the core human experience. I view therapy through an existential lens (often using parts work and narrative therapy)—so basically, I like to look at the "big questions" in addition to your immediate needs.
I work with all types of folks, but I am most effective when we are navigating:
Because I am trained in EMDR, we can process trauma at a nervous-system level, not just talk around it. If you’ve ever thought, “I’ve talked in circles about this thing and it just won’t go away,” this might be a way to help clean out the issues that just unlatch it’s claws from you.
Finally, a note on safety: As a survivor of sexual trauma, I’ve done my own healing work to be here. I share this not to center my story, but so you know that I can hold space for yours without flinching. You don't need to protect me from your reality.
Outside of counselling, I can be found playing Dungeons & Dragons or video games (I’m big on RPGs and deck-builders). Otherwise, I’m likely at my stationery desk playing with fountain pens, cross-stitching, or curled up with my kindle!
Approaches
Areas of Focus
Selected Trainings
Melanie's Rates
15-min Consultation: No Cost
Individual Counselling
50-min
Standard: $120
75-min
Standard: $170
Tuesdays 8:00 am - 5:00 pm (Virtual)
Wednesdays 3:00 pm - 7:00 pm (Virtual)
Thursdays 1:30 pm - 7:00 pm (Virtual)
Fridays 8:00 am - 5:00 pm (Virtual)
Saturdays 9:00 am - 2:00 pm (In-Person at Ontario and Broadway)
About
Hey, I’m Melanie! I’m a sex therapist, former graphic designer, and storytelling enthusiast. As a bicultural (Singaporean/Canadian), demisexual woman who is personally familiar with polyamory, I bring my whole self to this work so you can feel safe bringing yours.
My ‘way of therapy’ is anchored in the core human experience. I view therapy through an existential lens (often using parts work and narrative therapy)—so basically, I like to look at the "big questions" in addition to your immediate needs.
I work with all types of folks, but I am most effective when we are navigating:
- Sexual Wellness & Identity: Desire, libido, kinks, painful sex, and exploring gender/sexuality.
- Shame, Trauma & Compulsion: Healing from assault, religious trauma/purity culture, and compulsive sexual behaviors.
- Relationship Dynamics: Navigating polyamory, ethical non-monogamy (ENM), and kink dynamics.
- The Big Stuff: Life’s direction, meaning, and who you are at your core.
Because I am trained in EMDR, we can process trauma at a nervous-system level, not just talk around it. If you’ve ever thought, “I’ve talked in circles about this thing and it just won’t go away,” this might be a way to help clean out the issues that just unlatch it’s claws from you.
Finally, a note on safety: As a survivor of sexual trauma, I’ve done my own healing work to be here. I share this not to center my story, but so you know that I can hold space for yours without flinching. You don't need to protect me from your reality.
Outside of counselling, I can be found playing Dungeons & Dragons or video games (I’m big on RPGs and deck-builders). Otherwise, I’m likely at my stationery desk playing with fountain pens, cross-stitching, or curled up with my kindle!
Approaches
- Existential
- EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing)
- Person-Centred
- Narrative
- Trauma Focused
- Feminist
- Internal Family Systems (Parts Work)
Areas of Focus
- Anxiety
- Consensual Non-Monogamy/ Polyamory
- 2SLGBTQIA+ issues
- Asexuality
- Aromanticism
- BDSM and Kink
- Communication and Boundaries
- Erectile Dysfuction
- Gender Identity
- Hypersexuality/ Compulsive Sexual Behaviors
- Infidelity
- Low Sexual Desire
- Neurodiversity
- Orgasm Difficulties
- Painful Sex
- PTSD/ CPTSD
- Rapid/Delayed Ejaculation
- Relationship Issues
- Religious Trauma
- Sexual Identity Concerns
- Sexual Self-Esteem and Self-Confidence
- Sexualized and Gender-Based Violence
- Trauma
Selected Trainings
- BDSM: Working with Kinky Clients—The Westland Academy of Clinical Sex Therapy
- Canadian Certified Sex Addiction Specialist—Canadian Addiction Counsellors Certification Federation
- EMDR Therapy — Alivia Maric, PhD, RPsych and Eve Wilensky, MA, RCC EMDR Training
- Painful Sex: Working with Genito-Pelvic Pain/Penetration Disorders (GPPD)—Allura Sex Therapy Centre & Provider
- Sex & Gender 101: The Basics (Mini Course)—The Westland Academy of Clinical Sex Therapy
- Sex & Trauma: Helping Clients Move Beyond Trauma & Reclaim Their Sexuality—Allura Sex Therapy Centre & Provider
Melanie's Rates
15-min Consultation: No Cost
Individual Counselling
50-min
Standard: $120
75-min
Standard: $170